A BDSM Dungeon Helps This Park Slope Resident Pay Rent


One of two rooms in Jennifer’s dungeon. Photo: Heather Dockray

One of two rooms in Jennifer’s dungeon. Photo: Heather Dockray

When Jennifer P.’s roommate moved out earlier this year, the 24-year-old Florida native saw an opportunity. While many people in her situation might choose to get a new roommate, Jennifer, who now had a full house at her complete disposal, decided to go a different route. In the front room of her apartment, she did something she had always dreamed about doing: She built her own dungeon devoted to bondage, domination, sadism and masochism (better known as BDSM).

While living in Florida, Jennifer (whose name has been changed to protect her privacy) had Google searched “How to make money” and landed on a page about BDSM dungeons. She began reading about the business and started operating one part-time. Without a house to call her own, though, her dungeon struggled to turn a profit. Then she moved to Brooklyn, and temporarily gave up the business. But with her roommate now gone—and 1,750 square feet at her disposal—Jennifer decided to capitalize on the opportunity and re-open shop. At the time, she was paying $1,800 a month in rent for a three-bedroom duplex in Park Slope, and she didn’t have a regular source of income.

BDSM dungeons might seem out of place in the Slope—at the local coffee shop where we mostly spoke about dungeons over granola, multiple people kept turning around to stare—but Jennifer assured me that hers is not an anomaly here in New York City where, as long as participants don’t have sexual intercourse, BDSM dungeons are legal. There are multiple clubs in Manhattan (Pandora’s Box and Paddles are the most notorious), and informal kink parties pop up throughout the city. As Jennifer explained it, dungeons like hers are a great opportunity for people looking to make money in the sex industry “without actually having sex.”

“There’s nothing to be ashamed of,” she says. “A lot of people look at it likes it’s so absurd and immoral. It’s not. Basically everyone that you know has some secret sexual interest . . . So I don’t think there should be any stigma attached to it.”

“Then again,” she adds, “if there wasn’t stigma . . . the market wouldn’t be as big. Keep shaming them actually.”

Running a BDSM business actually affords Jennifer the time to pursue her artistic interests. She is also a writer and cartoonist (disclosure: we worked on several projects together last year), and operating the dungeon, she says, “allows me to do creative things on the side.”

Like your typical Brooklyn freelancer, though, she still struggles to pay the rent. Brooklyn is now the most expensive place to live in America, just edging out its posh neighbor, Manhattan. In Park Slope/Gowanus, the area where Jennifer lives, the average rent for a three-bedroom is just over $4,000. The median income for NYC residents hovers right around $50,771. Were Jennifer to be making the median income, and living in a median apartment, she’d be contributing approximately 61.4% of her monthly salary toward rent. That’s 30% above the portion most economists suggest she pay for housing, not including taxes. Jennifer’s rent is now approaching $2,100, an under-market-value price hard to find in a neighborhood dotted by Bugaboo strollers and upscale breastfeeding boutiques. Yet it is still a considerable amount of money for a financially independent 24-year-old. Ensuring her dungeon does well is essential to her survival at this point.

Jennifer technically leases out her front room to clients, which is more complicated territory than a traditional BDSM dungeon business model. The easiest comparison is an Airbnb rental: rented rooms offered by the renter. Substitute “vacationing twenty-somethings” with “high-rolling submissives” and you encounter the same legal gray area. For Jennifer, though, it’s all worth the risk. While she doesn’t perform the dominatrix work—“I’m vanilla myself,” she says—Jennifer likes being her own boss, and has hired good friends. Right now she manages three dommes: Some have worked at professional dungeons in the city; others have been trained by their coworkers. One is an old friend she knew from Florida, who Jennifer employed because she felt “she had the right look.”

Reading material at Jennifer's dungeon. Photo: Heather Dockray

Reading material at Jennifer’s dungeon. Photo: Heather Dockray

Customers pay anywhere from $150–$250 per session. Jennifer collects 40% of that sum. As a local, mom-and-pop dungeon shop, she earns just under $3,000 a month in income, leaving her “a couple hundred” dollars for food and other necessities every month after paying her rent. Some clients, who also like to be dominated financially, make monthly contributions toward the rent, called “tributes.” Tributes remain the same even while work is seasonal, with fewer customers showing up in winter. Men sometimes pose as submissives, promising to show up with cash, but act as dominants, never once appearing (something dominants, Jennifer said, occasionally get off on).

Like any startup, Jennifer is forced to spend most of the day on social media, finding customers on either Backpage.com or FetLife. She screens them, arranges appointments and helps to train her staff. And while the work is intense, the pay-offs are worth it, she says. When Jennifer had to cut one of our conversations short because she was about to start driving, I accidentally learned of one of her job perks.

“You have a car?” I asked.

“No, one of the dommes and I borrowed a sub’s car,” she said. “He asked her to tie him down to the bed, then take his car and use his money to go out to eat.” Just one of the unexpected benefits not exactly written into the dungeon madame job description.

Contrary to the image of BDSM in works of fiction like Fifty Shades of Grey, which many critics panned as abusive, Jennifer sees her dungeon as a feminist operation. All of her dommes have a “complete say over what they can and cannot do,” she says. While traditional dungeons are owned by men and give women 40% of the profits, Jennnifer owns hers independently and gives her dominatrices 60% of whatever they make. And her dungeon doesn’t offer female submission.

“None of the women here submit,” she says. “I have a problem with that.”

Jennifer tries to make all of her decisions collaboratively.

“I work with them, and they work with me,” she says. “They’re all intelligent women, with a good understanding of gender and sexuality.”

Shoes left behind by dommes and Jennifer's dungeon. Photo: Heather Dockray

Shoes left behind by dommes and Jennifer’s dungeon. Photo: Heather Dockray

So far, all of her dungeon’s clients have been men. While couples have inquired, none have followed through. For women seeking to be dominated, Jennifer says, “that’s pretty easy to find without having to pay for it.”

A recent study of message-board posts found that around 71% of men identified as dominants. Submissive men are in a minority. As Jennifer explained, “men aren’t allowed to show their femininity without being stigmatized for it.” While women are also sometimes stigmatized for being too feminine, it can be a particular hurdle for men. “As long as society’s broken, my doors will stay open,” Jennifer says.

Besides one client who ran out without paying (a dominatrix later chased him down the streets of Park Slope), there have been no major incidents, and Jennifer has some controls in place to ensure her safety. Before a client comes to her home, she inputs their phone number into Spokeo, which combs the web for a history of that number. There are several websites that escorts use to rate clients and report abusers, which Jennifer also examines.  While a session is underway, she always remains in the other room. And she does have a harpoon in the closet, she jokingly told me, in case of emergency.

Even though she enjoys the role of dungeon madam, Jennifer knows it may not be for everyone, particularly her neighbors. She understands some Park Slope residents—many of them the top-earners in the city—might not get what it’s like to work for cash or operate in the sex industry.

“It’s easy for people to pass judgment on something they don’t understand,” she says. “I’ve seen my mom work odd jobs her entire life to support me. The toll it’s taken on her—her whole life has revolved around just making money to continue to be alive—I don’t want to fall into that pattern.”

Recently, Jennifer’s lease was terminated. She thinks her nosy neighbors might have tipped off her otherwise “absent” landlord.

“I do have about 45 strange men coming in and out of the house every month,” she concedes.

With such turbulence, it might seem easier to do what most Brooklynites do—put up her apartment on Airbnb. Given the state of the house—“The staircase might be collapsing, the plaster crumbling and an old man did recently die in the basement,” she says—Jennifer told me the most she can charge per night to stay at her place is $60. That gives her less than $2,000 a month, assuming she finds a renter for each and every night. A dungeon, by comparison, offers Jennifer $100/hour on average. She’s had approximately 500 clients in the past couple years and 50 in the past two months, and she plans to expand. Her long-term goal is to build a bigger, established, feminist dungeon.

With two weeks until she has to move, Jennifer is currently looking for a two-bedroom apartment, under $2,000 a month, somewhere that affords her business privacy. Many Brooklyn apartments require extensive amounts of paperwork—bank statements, salary histories, letters of recommendation, W-2s—which Jennifer won’t have when she moves. Still, she’s confident she’ll find a place for her and her dungeon. And she loves the flexibility that owning a BDSM business affords. Unlike many people her age, she doesn’t need to have a roommate; she gets to set her own hours and work with close friends; and despite the amount of time it takes to run your own business, Jennifer says she wouldn’t leave it for a traditional job.

“During the sessions,” she says, “I’m just at my desk, and during that time, I can write, or draw, or make music, or do whatever . . . I don’t want to be a server and pretend I want to talk to people about their days. I’d rather be on the phone being mean to men.”

She’s joking, but she’s also serious. While many people might raise eyebrows at the idea of sex work, her job offers more satisfaction than the typical side gig.

“This job allows me to be creative. I control who comes in and out. I’m not a control freak, but I want to be in control of my life.”

Editor’s note: We omitted a previously published photo of Jennifer, and further disguised her name to protect her privacy.

7 Responses

  1. Violet the FemDom -

    I feel like you should have an actual understanding of the D/s paradigm and what it actually means to be submissive before operating a “dungeon” space and hiring Dominatrices. The idea that male submission is akin to feminization is a false one and offensive to anyone that actually, you know, gets it. Never mind the comment “as long as society’s broken” and the insinuation that somehow these acts and the players therein are somehow broken people because of their submissive qualities. This isn’t a “feminist” dungeon, this is a place of ignorance, or as least as it’s portrayed in this article. I surely hope that the Dominatrices that work here are better educated and informed in the psychological aspects of the B, the D/s, the S, and the M.

    Also, pro-tip, ALWAYS get the money before anything happens. That’s Sex Work & Pro-Domming Lesson #1. Oh, and, BDSM dungeons may be legal, but the activities that go on within them, when there is an exchange of money, are often in the gray area of legality.

    • Reader -

      I didn’t take the “broken” comment that way. I understood it that society, in general, is ‘broken’ because it sees men with submissive tendencies as wrong. Not that the submissive men are in some way ‘broken’. I’m not into that scene, so maybe you think there’s still something wrong with the phrasing.

    • CoolUsername -

      And in addition, the following problems stood out from where I’m sitting:

      1. They left a bound person ALONE. Not just alone in a room, but alone in the apartment. That’s plain old dangerous.

      2. She “has a problem” with female submissives?!?! Excuse me?!?! Way to cast judgement on another woman’s sexual preferences and practices. Sounds like this woman really doesn’t understand that being a sub in a healthy BDSM relationship never involves a loss of agency or lack of consent. To imply that female subs aren’t feminist enough because of what they enjoy in the bedroom is belittling and makes me absolutely see red.

      Ignorance. Pure and simple.

  2. klopez -

    The most important question here, how the hell do you get a three bedroom duplex in the Slope for only $1800???

  3. John -

    “At the time, she was paying $1,800 a month in rent for a three-bedroom duplex in Park Slope”. Dream on. You’d be lucky to find a studio in Park Slope for $1,800, so not sure where (or if) this place really exists.

  4. Diana Adams, Esq -

    This statement in your article is legally inaccurate: “as long as participants don’t have sexual intercourse, BDSM dungeons are legal.” Prostitution in NY is defined as sexual conduct for a fee, which is quite vague. Penetration of any kind (including anal play common for some professional dominants) for a fee generally falls within this definition of prostitution, and many NY dungeons have been shut down in police raids because of this activity.


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